PermaLiv.MyPortfolio.com / LeveVeg.MyPortfolio.com: How to handle the person who talks too much

Saturday, November 23, 2013

How to handle the person who talks too much – Validate and hear from others

A common complaint about meetings is that one or two people talk too much and dominate the conversation. Not only does this make others feel resentful and unfulfilled, it can be very unproductive and inefficient for the group as a whole. It’s unproductive because the best ideas may not have found room to be shared or because the group got diverted off topic, and it’s inefficient because the whole group spends time going over and over the same ground or serving the interests of a single person.

As a meeting facilitator or group leader, how can you fix this? Validate what the person is saying and then make it about wanting to hear from others.

Check out the video for an explanation and a little demonstration.

No comments:

What it Means to be an Alexandrian

Of course, there exists a fundamental disagreement between my group of architect/philosopher friends, many of them Alexandrians (after Christopher Alexander), and most contemporary architects and academics. We believe that architecture is an extension of human cognition and symbiotic interaction with the environment. The latter group, on the contrary, believe in severing this millennial connection so as to create a hostile inhuman environment that expresses certain human psychoses. Contemporary architects don’t quite put it in this way, but either they are being dishonest, or they are fooling themselves. - Nikos A. Salingaros

Menneskeatferd er ikke tilpasset store samfunn!

Framtida er usikker og svært sannsynlig farlig. Vi bestemmer i dag ikke over egen framtid: Ingen av de å stemme på har gode løsninger. Økonomien lever sitt eget liv og har penger som verdimål, dette tømmer ressursene fortere enn de gjendannes fordi økt forbruk gir økt pengeoverskudd. Menneskeatferd er ikke tilpasset å gjøre noe med dette i store samfunn: Vi må organisere oss for å få fram evnene til samarbeid og bærekraft; for å holde igjen lysta på mer; som også er medfødt. - Terje Bongard

The Commons

Alain Lipietz, a French political figure and student of the commons, traces the word "commons" to William the Conquerer and the Normans - not the English, interestingly. The term "commons" supposedly comes from the Norman word commun, which comes from the word munus, which means both "gift" and "counter-gift", which is to say, a duty.

I think this etymology gets to the nub of the commons. We need to recover a world in which we all receive gifts and we all have duties. This is a very important way of being human. The expansion of centralized political and market structures has tragically eclipsed our need for gifts and duties. We rely on the institutions of the Market and the State for everything, leaving little room for personal agency or moral commitment. And so we have largely lost confidence in what Ivan Illich called the vernacular domain, the spaces in our everyday life in which we can create and shape and negotiate our lives. - David Bollier

The Battle for the Life and Beauty of the Earth: A Struggle Between Two World-Systems

"The builders of Florence, especially those building from about the year 1000 A.D. to 1500 A.D., lived and worked with an unshakable belief in God. As one looks at the works that came from their hands, God is everywhere: in the paintings now hanging in the Uffizi, in the Baptistery, in San Miniato, in the life and death of Beato Angelico living in his cell in the monastery of San Marco. For them, every stone was a gift to that unshakable belief in God they shared. It is the belief, the unshakable nature of the belief, its authenticity, and above all its solidity, which made it work effectively for them. We, in our time, need an authentic belief, a certainty, connected with the ultimate reaches of space and time -- which does the same for us." - Christopher Alexander

PermaLiv.MyPortfolio.com / LeveVeg.MyPortfolio.com

Saturday, November 23, 2013

How to handle the person who talks too much – Validate and hear from others

No comments:

Post a Comment

Featured Post

Dagens demokrati kan ikke redde oss fra klimakrisen

Search This Blog